Anyone who is familiar with the job hunting process will tell you that it’s not easy at all. It’s bloody hard, and it can be one of the most emotionally taxing experiences anyone can go through. From the time I graduated up until now I haven’t really voiced my experience regarding this and for some it may be a bit awkward or even unusual due to the fact that I generally don’t share too much on social media but I’m in a process of learning to share more on this platform in the hopes that we can all share and learn from one another, ditto?
As I’ve already mentioned, finding a job can be frustrating but in this post I wanted to share ways that you can cope during this time to make it just a tad bit bearable, especially now that we’ve reached the season where vacancies are popping up more frequently for the new year.
No, seriously…when we let worries about what we want or wish to have takeover we tend to lose sight of the things we already do have. If you have a job, be grateful. There’s someone who’s yearning to be in your situation and support themselves or their family. If you’re a student looking for a job, be grateful. You have the time to improve yourself, use it wisely.
Remember it’s just a season
Life works in seasons. It’s just a fact. One thing that helps me a lot in difficult moments is remembering that seasons come and go…they don’t last forever – even though in that moment when you’re experiencing all those nitty gritty parts of life, it seems like it will. Another point to factor in is realizing that you’re in this season for a reason. Remember there’s a lesson in the waiting as well. You’ve got a much higher calling and purpose that transcends what you are feeling now. Hold onto that.
Laugh it off
Cue in my comedy series faves: Modern Family, The Middle, Black-ish, Grown-ish – I’m there like a bear. Seriously, perhaps it’s just me, but I don’t take life seriously. I. Love. Laughing. It really is some darn good medicine. Trust me, it’s good to take some time to just laugh about something. Anything. There’s actually a science behind it, laughing has been proven to decrease stress hormones which is something needed in a situation where you find yourself waiting on something like a job to come through for you. Get that stress out when you can. Your mind and soul will be better for it.
Don’t seclude yourself
Early on in my job-hunting process, I found myself withdrawing from social situations, particularly ones where I felt there may be a chance someone may ask me what’s going on in my life, whether I have a job, what I want to do with my life, etc, etc….I didn’t want to have to answer those questions because honestly, I still wasn’t quite sure of the answers myself and I think that freaked me out more than anything. I’ve since realized that there’s power in community, particularly one that cares – whether it is family, friends, or a church, find a community that cares enough to lift you up who you can lean on when times get rough.
Don’t give up
Keep looking. Always. Keep. Looking. Just because you haven’t found a job yet doesn’t mean it’s not going to come your way. A good friend of mine constantly reminds me that sometimes it’s just that you haven’t found a job that is the right fit for you. Keep in mind that there’s no job that is perfect, but there will always be faults at any company or business you work for so it’s important to also have realistic expectations. The right fit will come along eventually, just stay positive and keep looking.
Accept the good and the bad
As in any season in life, you will have good days to compliment the bad days and vice versa. Hills and valleys exist in every season whether discontentment or happiness exists. That’s just a fact of life. The key point is being content where you are and not rooting your joy in the “there” where you want to be, because truth is “there” will eventually become “here” and if you’re not content in the now, it’s highly probable that you won’t be content when you reach where you want to be. There will be days when you are completely okay and days when it’s completely hard and it’s alright to admit that, but still make it your aim to be content with where you are.
Trust in God
Trust in the fact that God knows your ending from your beginning. He knows your heart and dreams that you have…but realise that He has a bigger dream for you than you could ever imagine for yourself and He knows what’s best for you. Often the things we don’t see or understand in the present are exactly what we need in order to take us to where God wants us to be, so that when you finally get there you can be a beacon of hope for others in the same situation. Hold onto God and trust in His goodness. He’s got you.
These are just a few points I wanted to share with you to keep you going, of course it’s not going to be easy, life never really is, but I hope this helps you look at things from a different angle with the realization that there are other things at work beyond what you feel or can see.