Two years and two days ago – yes, I have an unapologetically good memory – I felt despondent, frustrated and embarrassed – despondent about the dire condition of my hair, frustrated with what I thought was my unredeemable situation and embarrassed because for some reason, at the time, I felt I had encountered a situation unique to no other human being (it’s okay to go ahead and laugh now). I had just embarked on my natural hair journey for a couple of months when I got a sudden bad case of dandruff…no, not build up as I’ve often mentioned. I think it’s time I be honest and realise that no matter how much I try to sugar coat it, dandruff is dandruff. Eeuw…
I don’t claim to know everything, nor have I ever tried to, but I believe the reason I went through that situation was because I had fallen prey to something every natural hair rookie is prone to doing at least once: not knowing their hair and wanting to try pretty much everything without really knowing how to properly utilise products. So, naturally, my hair and scalp couldn’t deal anymore and decided to backlash. I spent weeks wondering what on earth was going on with my scalp…and then one day I just caved and couldn’t take it anymore.
Two years ago, where I began….
There is still much I remember about that day when I walked into the salon with my father in tow. Hold your horses now, this not that moment where you go “ncaww..!”, the man was not necessarily being supportive, he was just getting his routine haircut, but I’ll admit that having his presence there made me feel somewhat braver than I did. As the razor went through my hair and each strand fell to the floor, all I could do was say goodbye to my hair as I knew it. I hardly imagined how that would be the most liberated I’d ever feel nor how it would spur the growth of my hair to what it now is.
1 year natural! Mind the terrible quality…
This past year has been both interesting and fulfilling because this is the year I decided to prove to myself that I don’t need any hair extensions in order for my hair to grow – this after an allergic reaction to extensions, not once but twice. I’m not trying to throw shade on anyone who prefers using hair extensions on their hair, I still do think braids are beautiful in their many shapes and forms and although I’ve personally never attuned myself to getting one (except that one time for matric dance), truth is you can’t go wrong with a good weave. What I loved most about this past year is that I learnt how to plait my own hair and do it well and that’s something I’ll carry with me throughout my hair journey.
Fro all blown out (using my hairdryer on the cool setting)
Now that I’ve got the plaiting down to a tee, I think definition is something I definitely want to focus on in the following year without giving up my current regimen of flat twisting my hair. Wash and go’s are a definite no-no for me because, well, shrinkage is real y’all but you never know, I might just surprise you 🙂 If anything, I’m constantly amazed at what my hair can do, even after everything I put it through. Year two…bring it on, here’s to more evolutions!!
Bantu knot out on blown out hair…
P.S.: For those of you who’ve always wondered what products I use, I generally try not to blog too much about that because we all have different heads of hair and the last thing I want to do is send people running off to try products that may/may not necessarily work for them. At the same time, I’m also aware that the only way to know whether a product works for you is to try them out, so without further ado, here are a few of my staples:
Shampoo: Tresemme Deep Cleansing Shampoo (heads up: it’s got sodium laureth sulfate – I know most of you are probably thinking “don’t you dare bring that thing anywhere near my fro” but I honestly don’t mind one “bad” ingredient, plus I’m a low porosity gal so it does the job for me)
Deep conditioner: Dark & Lovely Amla Legend Hair Mask (been using it since I became natural, but I’m on the fence about it at the moment so it may be replaced soon)
Leave-in conditioner: Dr. Miracle’s Leave-in Conditioner (this needs no explanation, I mean ♡)
Oil/s: Grapeseed oil, tea tree oil, lemongrass oil (again, ♡)
Cream: My whipped avocado butter cream (can I say hallelujer?!?!)
Spritz: Water, ACV, aloe vera juice, grapeseed oil, lemongrass oil and tea tree oil
I'm Chisomo, a Communication Science graduate in my mid-twenties who lives on endless cups of tea. I'm also a natural hair enthusiast, a stay-at-home daughter, a sister, a wanderer and lover of all things pretty who loves Jesus on so many levels I can't even explain.
Oh, fro! began as a result of a simple expression used by a girl in love with, you guessed it, her fro. This is just my tiny space where I share about my hair, regimen and all things hair...and a few tidbits of things I love. So find a comfy spot, settle in and I hope you enjoy every bit of this bumpy ride as much as I do!